Conflicts will arise in your personal life and career at some point in time. They may involve differing opinions, or a stronghold on matters of self-interest.

In either situation, you can resolve these conflicts in ways that bring mutual respect and an enhanced sense of empowerment to your relationships.

Here are five key essentials to remember when resolving a conflict in either a personal or professional relationship:

Tell the truth about why you disagree

If someone’s opinion threatens you in a personal way, or if he has demanded that you take a side against someone else, then you have another matter to resolve before you will ever resolve the conflict.

Similarly, you will want accurate information about the other person's position. Let him know the truth about your position. This allows for an honest assessment that is needed for both parties to reach agreement.

Seek common ground

There is a lighthearted quote by Alison Boulter that goes: “Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else.” Although our talents and experiences differentiate us, we all have commonalities, ideas, and opinions on which we can agree.

I am not referring to the clichéd adage, “We must agree to disagree sometimes”. When you seek and find true common ground, you look with sincerity and intention for peaceful solutions that will benefit both parties.

Work toward mutual benefits

A common error in conflict resolution is to seek a win rather than the win-win outcome. You cannot resolve conflicts with more conflict, seeking revenge or gains of power over others. How often have you seen that result in resentment and further damage to relationships?

The ultimate goal in conflict resolution is not to “win” a conflict. The ultimate goal is to enhance personal and professional growth through problem solving. 

Focus on issues rather than personalities

You can best resolve conflicts in a courteous manner: getting the facts, listening closely to the other’s opinions, asking for clarification, and communicating ideas clearly. Your focus should remain on the issue at hand, not the people involved. You must separate the issues from personalities to resolve conflicts effectively.

Watch for the benefits

Could your conflict actually bring you benefits? Absolutely. If you resolve a conflict in a constructive manner, you may better understand the working style of your group or another individual.

In addition, you will have a greater knowledge of your values and the values of your partner, enjoy enhanced group dynamics and foster mutual respect between team or family members.

Conflicts can allow human beings to share the value of unique experiences. You can treat those with whom you disagree with respect and dignity while learning from their experiences.

In this way, you will benefit from the differences as well as similarities. You will grow toward your capacity for living abundantly and peacefully and extend the full range of your gifts to others.

Article © copyright 2010 by Steve Brunkhorst. He is a professional life strategies coach, inspirational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets Of Inspiration, a popular ezine. For more information, visit Article source: