WE OFTEN hear about someone losing weight in a relatively short period of time or making a certain amount of money that would otherwise take years to achieve.

Inevitably, we are all drawn to the end results and often neglect the process that leads to it.

Many of us are guilty of not exercising enough, eating too much junk food or spending too much time on the Internet or TV.

Some of us may be motivated to get rid of these bad habits due to the influence of a friend or family member or because we are simply unhappy with the current circumstance and resolve to make things better.

Here are three strategies that will help to kickstart a better, brighter 2015:



 Right words

Psychologists coined our ability to have internal conversations with ourselves as “self-talk”.

According to Associate Professor Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis at the University of Thessaly in Trikala, Greece, who studies self-talk and the psychology of sports performance: “What happens with self-talk is you stimulate your action, direct your action and evaluate your action.”

As we spend one-third of our daily conversations with ourselves, “self-talk” is a very influential tool.

Instead of saying: “I want to make $100,000”, replace it with: “I am open to ideas that provide me with multiple sources of income.”

This way, the end goal remains unchanged — it is still $100,000 that you desire to have. But you are now opening your mind to receive more avenues to make that sum of money and it can come from various sources apart from your current employment.

When you use the right words, they will stimulate and direct your action. 

For example, after rewording your goal, you may be more willing to consider a franchise opportunity you read about in the newspaper, or invest in a friend’s restaurant and receive yearly dividends instead of setting up your own restaurant from scratch.



 Review the past results

Are you spending time rummaging through your past and wondering what the future will be like?

Our future is shaped by the present and naturally our present circumstances are largely influenced by our past.

While common sentiments advise “moving on” or “letting go of the past”, this is not very helpful to you in the long term if you really want a better future.

What is the outcome you want? If you don’t know how to achieve it, your past is the first stage of review.

Knowing where you went wrong or what you could have done differently is important so that you take the necessary steps forward.



 Replay your life 

Leo Buscaglia, an American motivational speaker and best-selling author of books on love and human reticence, said: “If you don’t like the scene you’re in, if you’re unhappy, if you’re lonely, if you don’t feel that things are happening, change your scene. Paint a new backdrop.” 

The review process helps you to identify scenes of your life that you are unhappy with; the replay stage gives you the space and time to “paint a new backdrop”.

By and large, many of us have the means to change our lives for the better. But we often blame the economy, our bad bosses, the junk food and so on for our rocky finances, stagnating career and excess pounds.

It is what we tell ourselves day and night that obstructs our minds and takes away our focus from achieving our higher goals.

It is this inner conversation that we have to change if any improvements are to be made.

By using our creative imagination, we can revisit the scene we would like to enter, to be the person we really want to be and to have the things we would like to have.

Picture the day you finally achieve your goal of earning $100,000.

How do you feel? If your friends know about it, what conversations will transpire among you? Hear them congratulate you, and catch yourself in the mood of success and happiness.

This process of reviewing and replaying the scene may not come naturally at first, but with patience and perseverance, it gets easier and propels you nearer to your goals.

Put the 3Rs into practice and be on track for a successful 2015. 


Article by Desmond Chua, an associate lecturer, entrepreneur and relationship coach. He is the founder of EIMI Group (www. eimigroup.com) and can be contacted at info@eimigroup.com