DIFFICULT goals, by their very nature, require one to overcome substantial obstacles.
The path to success, which usually involves achieving difficult goals, has many obstacles.
A major psychological obstacle on the path to success is dealing with temporary failure. What you do when you fail temporarily has a big impact on whether or not you reach your goal.
As you journey on the path to success, remember these points:
The energy to persevere when faced with obstacles comes from having the right attitude.
Know yourself and understand that the way in which you interpret an event influences the way in which you see the event and, consequently, how your react to it.
Learn from your mistakes and experiences.
How can you create the energy that it takes to persist when things are not going your way?
The energy to keep striving can be generated by having a positive attitude and a determination to reach the goal.
An attitude is simply a state of mind. A positive attitude is one that makes you feel optimistic about overcoming an obstacle.
On the other hand, a negative attitude makes you feel that you cannot or are unlikely to succeed in overcoming an obstacle.
You have a choice. Either you control your mind, or your mind will control you.
Your thoughts and feelings are shaped by many factors, especially your assumptions about the causes of things, as these assumptions influence your attitudes.
The mind is a meaning-making machine. You automatically give meaning to everything, and the meaning you give depends on the assumptions you make about the causes of an event.
Examine the factors - such as implicit theories and frames - which influence the assumptions you make about both yourself and the world.
Find out how these assumptions affect your attitudes and, consequently, the energy you have to persevere when faced with difficult obstacles.
As an old saying goes, you need to know yourself. It is vital to know your personality if you want to be successful in your career and in your life in general.
Everybody has psychological filters through which he sees the world. The way in which you respond to circumstances is determined to a large extent by your personality.
For example, some people see change as a threat while others see change as an opportunity.
The need to achieve and the locus of control are important aspects of personality when it comes to reaching your goals.
Take a look at different aspects of personality and how they influence the way in which you think, feel and behave.
The key to learning about yourself is to be aware of your thoughts and feelings.
A thought is simply a silent insight. The key to controlling your thoughts is to be aware of them rather than merely to react to them.
Self-talk - what you say to yourself - is an important part of who you think you are.
When you refuse to say negative things to yourself and learn to say positive things instead, you can increase your self-confidence.
Being able to separate the thinker from the thought is the first step to thought control.
Additionally, you need to reflect so that you can gain a better understanding of yourself.
Learn from mistakes
How can you learn from your mistakes or experiences?
You may have experienced failure because of your own shortcomings or because of unfavourable circumstances.
Failures can be seen as negative, for example, "I do not have what it takes". Or, they can be seen as learning opportunities, such as, "Now I know what to do when faced with a similar situation".
If you decide that failure to achieve a goal is due to your own shortcomings or to factors that you cannot change, you can suffer from learned helplessness. This can lead to you giving up and not learning from your experiences, as well as depression and a lack of motivation to persevere when faced with obstacles.
Reflecting on your experiences is not about justifying what you say and do but rather, about re-evaluating the way you see and do things so that you can improve.