SUCCESSFUL people are usually confident people. They believe that the best will happen to them.
It is confidence that spurs them on despite the obstacles that are placed before them.
As English novelist and literary critic Samuel Johnson said, “Self-confidence is the requisite to great undertakings.”
Here are five tips to get you on the road to being a confident, successful person:
1. Be positive
To develop confidence, you need to believe in yourself and engage in positive self-talk.
Believe in your abilities and talents. Believe in your ability to do anything that you want to do.
Each day you should say to yourself: “I am an able, valuable person.”
Speak positively. Make positive statements to yourself before you sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning.
For example, you can say to yourself: “I am confident” or “I am feeling great.”
Start each day by telling yourself: “Today is going to be a great day for me. I am going to do my best.”
2. Visualise success
Always think of the successes you have achieved, visualise them and enjoy the feelings that come with them. Feel the exhilaration of victory. Do this regularly and your confidence will grow.
3. Improve your image
Next, you should engage in practices that will help you present an image of confidence to others.
These practices include the way you speak, the way you dress, your posture and your body language.
When you speak, you should avoid vocalised pauses like “er”, “um”, “uh”, “well” and “you know”.
Use a strong, steady voice, neither shouting nor mumbling.
Your talk should include “I” statements, such as “I think”, “I feel” and “I want”.
Avoid qualifiers such as “maybe”, “I wonder if you could”, “just”, “would you mind very much” and “I can’t”.
Dress appropriately for the occasion. Adopt a relaxed posture and maintain your poise.
Avoid a hesitant demeanour and a timid walk. Eliminate mannerisms such as the shifting of weight and a slumped body posture. Instead, you should walk tall and sit confidently.
Present yourself as a confident person. Avoid nervous actions like fiddling with your pen or jewellery, keeping your arms crossed and looking away from the person who is speaking to you.
Eye contact is important, as it establishes confidence.
Adopt assertive body language and a style that helps you to make a presence wherever you are.
Do not sit at the back of a room, be it for a meeting or a presentation. Sit in front and participate by asking questions and making comments. When someone is speaking, lean forward, nod and smile.
4. Prepare well for an event
One of the best ways to ensure that you present yourself to others as a confident person is to be well prepared, whether it is for a meeting, a presentation or any other occasion.
When you are well prepared, you exude confidence. Your thoughts are organised and you can present clearly and confidently.
Be enthusiastic about what you have to say. If it is a meeting, prepare your notes well in advance. Make a list of relevant questions or answers to the items on the agenda.
Do your research and make sure that your facts are right. To feel more confident, rehearse the points and arguments you wish to raise before the meeting. Use words and phrases that are familiar to you.
5. Leave your comfort zone
Offer your services, undertake tasks and work at them with confidence.
Never be afraid of trying something new, something different.
Take the risk and face the new challenge. Always think, “I can.” Concentrate on what you want to get.
Speak to yourself confidently and tell yourself that you can succeed. This way, you will look confident.
If you have the confidence in yourself, you generate positive energy, great determination and drive within you.
This, in turn, will help you to face the challenges, overcome the odds, the hurdles, the hiccups and the bumps.